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I had the unusual experience of twice getting formal, public apologies from law professors over the way I had been treated in their classes.  I also had a private apology from another professor.  All three apologies caught me by surprise.  Two of the three led to warm relationships, I've mourned the death of both professors I ended up with warm relationships with.

However, all were provoked by the way I fit in differently.  They each reacted without really thinking the way. On reflection they felt that they were not reacting as they felt they should have. One of them is someone I used to correspond with (until he died) and a constant sub-theme from his end was how he felt he had failed me (If you asked me, I'd disagree, and I did, I hope he understands that now).

I enjoyed law school, including classes from all three, because I did not take what happened to heart.  I would have enjoyed the classes without the apologies.

But, as I have studied a number of brilliant lives, Paul Erdoss, Anna-Marie Del Mars, and others, it struck me that they have all drawn mistreatment and have all found success by not letting it create turbulence or drag in their lives.

Not to mention, fighting perceived mistreatment wastes time and energy, and you will often misunderstand how and why it is occurring and fight over the wrong issue.  Instead of getting mad at anyone, ask yourself where you have a hole you are compensating for, and fill it in with the effort you would be spending fighting.



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