I’ve been having difficulty writing a review for Make Any Divorce Better.
I’ve read enough bad books that I’ve developed a taxonomy for them, and I actually have clips of pretty scathing reviews that pretty much assemble themselves. The problem is that Ed Sherman wrote an excellent book. Giving him a fair review without just saying “great book” is a good deal harder that criticizing a bad book, or pointing out the limits and where a mediocre book goes astray.
The problem with divorce is that most people do not realize that statutes and common law have pretty much taken whatever advantage there may have been to fighting hard in a divorce and given it all to the attorneys involved. No one benefits from a hard fought divorce except the lawyer’s pocket books — and honestly, most lawyers have lost their taste for the futility of it.
On the other hand, there is very little out there to prepare someone whose relationship has ceased to work (which is why people get divorced, first the relationship quits working, next they find a replacement) for how to work through the emotions and the issues.
This book does that. It teaches you what you need to know, from how to fire an attorney, to how to work with one (or without one). It covers everything but the law (which is state specific) — though it tells you how to find reliable do-it-yourself materials for the states where they are available.
The book never loses sight of the fact that you need to protect yourself and your children, nor does it forget that you need to emerge from the experience intact and capable of forging a new life.
The layout leaves room for notes and encourages re-reading and note taking. It is clear in style. Direct without being simple, but at the same time it does not obscure the information with unnecessary text or the author’s war stories.
I had a friend who found herself in business teaching the elements of this book to those she knew who were going through divorces. If you don’t have a skilled PhD/MD with perfect social skills and dramatic insight, who is also a close personal caring friend, this book is the next best thing. Not to mention, at $24.95, it is sure a lot less expensive.
Even better, check a copy out from the library or buy it used at Amazon.com.